Questions about The Scripts We Inherited
Every relationship is shaped by invisible patterns we learned growing up, how love was expressed, how conflict was handled, how emotions were welcomed or avoided. Talking about the scripts you inherited from your families helps you understand why you react the way you do and why certain triggers feel so powerful. As a couple, this conversation builds empathy, reduces blame, and empowers you to consciously choose which patterns to keep and which to rewrite. Instead of replaying the past, you begin designing a relationship that reflects your shared values and future.
- In your childhood home, what was the standard operating procedure for conflict? Was the house loud and explosive, or was silence used as a weapon?
- How did your parents show love? Was it through praise, expensive gifts, worry/protection, or acts of service? Do you feel you still instinctively crave that specific currency today?
- What was the most common sentence you heard about money growing up? How does hearing that voice in your head affect you now?
